Knowing Someone Who Attempted Suicide Moves Me to Action!

I just got the news that someone I know attempted suicide.  It wasn't my friend or one of my family members...but a family member of a friend.  

What do you do when you get this news?  Well, if you're like me, you choke back the tears and screams in your throat, and you get into action.  You don't just sit there.  You believe there's a way to meet those who feel hopeless, neglected and abused and somehow, jump start them to believe in themselves and to believe there are better days.  

They are so much better than the hopelessness!  They are better than their shitty circumstances.  They have magic inside to get through their struggle!  They just forgot.

Since I've been in that hopeless place too and since, I believe what they lost can be found, I'm donating 10% of the sales of my painting, "Schneewittchen (German for Snow White): Neglected Child" and 10% of the sales of prints to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline.  If you believe there's hope, please buy a print of my painting.

I said, HELLS YES, to EVOLVING My Art & My Life!

Last year, I was afraid I was subconsciously sabotaging myself.  I thought I was attracting pain and poverty into my life because of some deep-rooted, negative belief that I couldn't rip out from my psyche.  It was controlling my actions and decisions.  So I did what anyone who was sick of losing would do.....I said HELLS YES to myself and made a decision to get help.  I said NO MORE to negativity and sabotaging myself.  I wanted to pull them out, destroy them and plant something better.   

Me in my art studio with my paintings in the background. I needed  RADICAL change and Sex & Intimacy Coach, Sophia Treyger helped me  do that in all aspects of my life including my art.

Me in my art studio with my paintings in the background. I needed RADICAL change and Sex & Intimacy Coach, Sophia Treyger helped me do that in all aspects of my life including my art.

How could I do this? Get a therapist?  A counselor?  A self-help book? All of them were possibilities.  But they didn't seem quite right.  I wanted something RADICAL. Something to JOLT me out of my bad habits.  Something that wouldn't just offer relief or bring me awareness, but actual transformation.  I mean EVOLVE!   

That's when I sought the help of Sophia Treyger, a sex an intimacy coach.  We chatted about what I wanted to do and she said she could help me make those RADICAL changes.  She outlined a 3-month, intense, one-on-one program where I'd have to do a lot of assignments and work.  She said it would be hard and challenging.  That didn't scare me, so I hired her.

Over 3 months later, I feel like a completely different woman who knows what she wants from her life and who has the tools to help her meet her challenges.  I've become aware of my fears and my emotions....something I ignored before.... and I no longer let them control my life or my decisions....previously, they were sabotaging my life.  Some days feel more challenging than others, but I know I have what it takes to make my life great.  I can do it!  I'm so thankful for her help.  I'd recommend her to anyone who is ready for some RADICAL transformation.

You know I've got great stories to tell about my triumphs over my demons.....just like the dark fairy tale art I create.  You know I want to share them with you, so SIGN UP FOR MY NEWSLETTER (CLICK HERE) and learn! 

My Art Reminds You to Beat Your Limiting Beliefs

Do  you know why I've been writing about letting go of limiting beliefs like in my posts:  

"You Should Never Feel You're Not Good Enough"

and

"Are 1 of These Beliefs Holding You Back?"?

Do you think it's because:

A) I've been there, doubting and holding myself back?

B) My art is about overcoming limiting beliefs by rediscovering your magic to get through the darkness and self-doubts? 

C) I'm a therapist by day and a painter by night?

D) Both A & B

Well, the answers is D.  Yeah, I've been in such deep, darkness, I've forgotten I have magic to get me through the doubt and pain. I almost gave up, but the way I got through those struggles was to create art.  The art that came out of me wasn't about denying where I was----in the dark, in pain, suffering, angry and alone---I embraced that darkness with dark fairytale art.  But I also recognized that it was temporary.  If I hung on, I would discover a way to get through it.  I would find the resources.  I would say yes to what I needed and no to what I didn't.  My art reminded me of my magic to get through the darkness.  

Detail of my  "Catch Yourself"  painting which is how I felt when I was struggling to figure out how to release limiting beliefs and discover my magic to get through the darkness.

Detail of my "Catch Yourself" painting which is how I felt when I was struggling to figure out how to release limiting beliefs and discover my magic to get through the darkness.

For example in my painting "Catch Yourself", being in pain and struggling felt like I was falling upside down without anything to catch me.  But if I remembered I had myself, I had knowledge and connections and MAGIC, I could catch myself on the way down.  It was like having a MAGIC book to help me.

Detail of my  "Vicious Cycle"  painting which is about being stuck and not being able to release the limiting beliefs in my subconscious.

Detail of my "Vicious Cycle" painting which is about being stuck and not being able to release the limiting beliefs in my subconscious.

I also knew if I didn't become conscious and release my limiting beliefs, I'd end up stuck and just creating more pain for myself like in my painting, "Vicious Cycle".  I'd think I was changing by leaving a relationship or bad situation, however, unless I let go of the subconscious limiting beliefs, I'd still find bad relationships and bad situations.  Those negative and invisible beliefs created a vicious cycle of my life.  I had to heal in order to progress.  

Detail of my painting,  "A House Divided"  is about uniting the dark and light halves to become whole and love myself.

Detail of my painting, "A House Divided" is about uniting the dark and light halves to become whole and love myself.

My painting, "A House Divided" is about trying to reunite the dark and light sides of myself to become whole and to love all of me.  When I reach total acceptance of myself, it's like having a love affair.  It's big, beautiful and magical.

This is the mission of my art to keep reminding you and me of our magic to get through those dark times.  They will never cease, but we'll get better at remembering and we'll get through them quicker and easier when we tap into our magic.  Join my newsletter to get reminders of these things and to invest in art that will remind you that you are good enough and you have magic.

Are 1 of These 3 Beliefs Holding You Back? (Or Maybe All 3)

Do you remember when I wrote a blog post about uprooting and getting rid of the negative belief that "you-aren't-good-enough"?   If not, you can read 3 ways to stop that FALSE belief by clicking here.   Well, I recently found out that there is more than one limiting belief.  In fact, all those negative and critical things we tell ourselves subconsciously stem from 3 limiting beliefs.  

Limiting beliefs are the monsters and dragons we can beat. This is a work in progress image of one of my dark fairytale paintings.

Limiting beliefs are the monsters and dragons we can beat. This is a work in progress image of one of my dark fairytale paintings.

Usually, our subconscious is sabotaging us with 1 limiting belief more than the other 2.  But it's possible that all 3 are plaguing you.  I see friends and loved ones all the time thinking, acting and talking like they cannot have what they truly desire whether that's money, the perfect romantic partner or the career of their dreams.  I've seen it in myself too.  Through my art, I remind myself that I have the tools and knowledge and magic to get through this darkness.  Here are the 3 limiting beliefs:

  1.   IF I TRY, I'LL FAIL:  This is the belief that there's no use in trying it because you don't have the knowledge or resources or the right connections to do something like make lots of money.  

  2. NO ONE WILL WANT ME:  This is the belief that no one will find you pretty, attractive, smart or interesting and you are going to have to be alone. 

  3. I'M NOT WORTHY:  This is the belief that you're not good enough so you don't deserve whatever it is that you desire the most like your dream job.

Can you figure out which one is your most dominant limiting belief?  If not, here are 4 steps to find out:

  1. WRITE DOWN WHAT YOU DESIRE MOST. 

  2. WRITE DOWN WHY YOU BELIEVE YOU CAN'T HAVE THAT.

  3. FOR EACH THING YOU WROTE, ASSIGN IT 1 OF THE 3 LIMITING BELIEFS.

  4. COUNT WHICH LIMITING BELIEF OCCURS THE MOST AND THIS IS YOUR #1 LIMITING BELIEF.

So you've figure it out.  Now what?  Well, like I wrote before in my previous post....write down the ideal situation.  Feel how good it will be to have what you desire the most.  Then carry this "ideal situation" around with you in your pocket wherever you do.  It will change those limiting beliefs into beliefs that you can get what you desire.  Let me start by saying, it's TRUE!  You do deserve all that you desire!  You are worthy!  You are good enough!